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I have four children 9,7,22months and 7 months we have started arguing almost every day and most times its over the silliest of things and like your partner he ignors me and our children, so if the baby is crying or has a dirty nappy and im in the middle of something he just lets her cry and sit there in a rotten nappy. All that makes me more mad and i end up in tears.
I think alot of our problems come down to the fact that I haven't got as much time for him, that includes in the bedroom because all I want to do is roll over and go to sleep, because im just so exhausted. But that is something he doesnt understand, He is out at work all day i'm stuck at home with two babies (not that im complaining I love them dearly and wouldnt be without them) and then at 3.30 the older two come home and I have them to sort out and they are at the age where they quarral alot.
I have found men need alot of attention and looking after. What we do once a fornight is ask my mum to baby sit and we go out child free and spend time together and just talk (although most of its about the girls)
Why not suggest that to him, get someone to have Evie and both of you go out and have a meal or a drink or go out and catch up with friends.
Having a your first baby is very overwhelming for both of you and he is more than likely feeling left out from all the attention you give Evie. No one ever seems to ask how daady is doing, its always how is mum and baby.
Just remember you are not alone, there are lots like us going through it.
Take care Claire