Posts: 1 | Joined: 9th Jul 06
I've been a single mum and i know exactly what you're going through. My daughter is now 8 years old, i was just 20 when i found out i was expecting after a 6 month fling, her father simply walked away when i told him and we haven't seen him since. I won't lie to you Sarah it is very very hard work, my family also lived a long way away and i had to rely on friends for help. It is difficult for any first time mum during the initial few months but it is even harder for a single mum, however it is incredibly rewarding and satisfying to see your baby grow into a wonderful human being, i am always being commented to about how well behaved and polite my daughter is and what a good job i've done. At the time it felt like i'd hit rock bottom and would never have a normal life without the stress of loneliness, money worries and the general responsibility of raising a child alone but 5 years after having my daughter i met a wonderful man, we are now living together, are engaged to be married and are expecting our 1st baby together in just 5 weeks time, my daughter calls him daddy now and we are finally a family - life has changed for us beyond my wildest expectations and i'm sure it will for you too as well one day.
Good luck with the birth, and in response to peoples comments about they don't know how you'll cope on your own, simply say well at least i only have the 2 of us to worry about, it must be even worse when you have to put a meal on the table and iron shirts for your partner on top of everything else - because believe me i've seen friends with lazy husbands and i really do wonder how they cope!