Posts: 31 | Joined: 20th Aug 06
I agree with the previous poster, be honest from the start. You could even tell a little white lie and tell her that only one other person is allowed in the delivery room, and that person is obviously got to be your partner! My mum has been a bit of a pain too to be honest, but she lives over a hundred miles away so I have been able to keep her at a distance. She wants to come and stay IMMEDIATELY after the baby is born, we live in a holiday place so I am going to suggest she stays in a B&B (mean I know) and visit each day, then I know me and my other half, and baby of course, can get some time to ourselves to get our routine sorted and get used to each other! She's not a good house guest and expects to be waited on, so there is no way I'm going to be forced into that one!
I would tell your mum your feelings as soon as possible, do it on the phone if that makes it easier, compare it to when she had you and ask her if she'd have liked her mother there (hopefully her answer will be no). Use the midwife as a reason, tell your mum that midwife doesn't recommend a lot of people around as this can stress out the mum giving birth and put them under pressure, blame the hospital if you like, just don't be forced into something you aren't comfortable with! Good luck, let us know how you get on. Louise xx